Someone is always suggesting we enhance or modify our look or something else about ourselves. Others suggest we change, become, or act like someone or something else. Every season, manufacturers of cosmetics and clothing tell consumers that updating is necessary. However, I wonder, aren’t we already fine as we are? I believe so because it is not what we wear, the things that we acquire, or even the things that we hope for that make us beautiful, and worthy. Who we are -- our inner being -- is what makes us shine. I truly believe that.
I happened to read a book on beauty and in it were lovely photos of women like Jada Pinkett Smith, Pam Grier, Cameron
Diaz, and Salma Hayek to name a few. The thirty or so celebrated women in the
book were interviewed. Each was asked to give her definition of beauty.
Although the answers varied, there was a common thread. Every woman, considered
beautiful in her own way, stated that beauty was a belief, a state of mind.
Each said in her own unique voice that beauty, to her, was a kind of knowing that
causes a woman to glow.

Don’t get me wrong. I believe to change one’s look is
fine—if that is something a woman has chosen to do. However, I do not believe we
should be pressured into anything. If your skin is supple, or if it has the
capability to be, then why not be grateful? If you like your hair, or lack
thereof, then you are already fine. If you are a woman who adds extensions, or
wears wigs, weaves, colorful scarves, or hats, for whatever your personal
reason, then you could already be fine. Do your brown or other colored eyes
serve you, and keep you from walking into walls—even if to do so you must wear
contact lenses or glasses? Then you too are most likely fine.

If someone loves you, even if it is only your mother, or your cat or dog; if you can
clean up nicely, or not; if you can, or cannot recall a time when you’ve looked
hot; if you, my lovely, are any of these things and more, then you are quite
possibly already fine. So as Billy Joel's song says, 'Don't go changing...'
Remember, it matters not what others suggest…the choice to
enhance or update, to be or not to be is up to you, and you alone, because you are, in my opinion…already super-duper fine.
Until next time, shine brightly my darlings, shine brightly!
April